Step parents: Does this sound like you?
- You feel like an outsider in your own home, like you don’t fit in.
- You have a great relationship with your partner when you’re alone, but something always seems to go wrong when the kids or ex-spouse is around.
- You don’t feel understood or appreciated. You wish your partner would really listen to you.
- The children aren’t getting the kind of discipline that’s best for them.
- You rarely feel relaxed at home when your step kids are there.
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you found the right place. I’m not saying all your problems will go away over night, but you are now on the path to peace of mind.
I’ve been there, done that, and got through it. I understand first hand how frustrating it can be. You can read more about My Story here.
Any conflict that arises is not about parenting, discipline, money, or even the ex, even though it seems like it is. The problem is in the situation itself – the psychology of step family dynamics. At some point you realize that blended families don’t blend like the Brady Bunch.
What you really want is…
- to feel like part of the family
- to feel respected and appreciated (and be shown)
- your partner to understand how you feel
- for them to understand why you do what you do
- to be seen as just who you are – a loving parental figure with the best interests for your step kids as well as your spouse.
Did you know?
- over 60% of remarriages end in divorce.
- It’s closer to 70% when adding in step couples who cohabitate.
- 15% end within 3 years, 25% within 5 years, and 39% within 10 years.
- 15 million stepmoms have stepchildren under the age of 18.
- only 20% of step children feel close to their step mother.
Don’t be one of these statistics! Get educated. Learn what you and your partner can do to get different results.
What makes me qualified?
- personal experience – 4.5 years as an acting stepmom
- clients who I’ve already helped and recommend me
- To read testimonials, click here.
- Certification as a Stepfamily Coach through The Stepfamily Foundation (Apr 2007)
- formal education in Sociology and Psychology
- personal interviews and reading of both successful and failed stepfamily members
Why will you become a successful stepfamily?
- You’re getting educated on stepfamily dynamics and not trying to be a first family.
- Many resources are available today for step parents and blended families. A support group is an internet-connection away.
- You have access to a couples counselor who understands blended families.
Objective, professional feedback from a 3rd party who is not emotionally involved and can see your situation clearly from both a bird’s eye view and worm’s eye view can make all the difference.
Consider what others have said about me.
- One parent said she understood her partner (the step parent) much better.
- One step couple went from arguing daily to feeling “peace of mind” because they didn’t worry about arguing after coming home from work. Instead, they were able to relax.
- Several couples expressed they appreciated that I really understood their position.
- I was told I give practical solutions that work.
- I’ve been told I’m knowledgeable, intelligent, a great listener, honest, and impartial.
Don’t take my word for it. Read a few of the testimonials by clicking here.
I’d like peace of mind for you too. What does peace of mind look like to you?
Imagine what it would be like to…
- come home from work and relax instead of arguing.
- discuss parenting-related topics without arguing or getting angry.
- be understood by your partner.
- feel like you’re part of your family.
- discipline your step children without them or your partner giving you a hard time.
What would that feel like?
What would you do differently?
Would you take more vacations?
Would you be able to relax more when you’re home?
Would it give you peace of mind?
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